Topics: Mixed guy in a white college?
As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males. During the year and a half I was on Tinder, white males of or around my age sent me messages such as “you’re my first Asian”, “Asa Akira”, “you look like an Asian goddess”, and best of all, “don’t Asian girls love white guys?”
I was born and raised in Toronto by my parents who were also raised in Toronto, so I was just as westernized as these guys were. When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn’t even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian. As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.
On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much. If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point. From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys. I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends.